Our stuff: March 2013

Enoch Wan <enochwan@yahoo.com>

Mar 26

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Thank you Hoiyin for your note below.

It was good that I could talk with your mom first then you today for about 1 1/2 hrs.

I was touched by your mom's love for you and I admire her for the determination to work closely with you in whatever way she could to help you. I also appreciate your willingness to let me pray for you and in fact, I pray daily for Sam and regularly for your well being.

I am so glad to learn that you are now receiving professional helps from both psychologist and psychiatrist. It is imperative for you to take medication and follow doctor's order & advice closely and proactively.

This is my first time to hear personally from you of your self-understanding, the realization of the need for professional and medical assistance and taking medication regularly.

You have earned my respect for your readiness to face many challenges with determination to get well from the years-long accumulative and harmful impact on you. I am glad that you not only realized the seriousness of your condition, you are owning up to past failures and ready to rectify whatever needs to be done.

In my opinion, it is critically important for your well being to receive positive and constructive assistance from your family first then friends. Please let them form a strong long-term support system for you.

Since you are in Hong Kong and being geographically close to your family, you should have open and healthy pattern of communication with your parents and brother. I plead that you would be receptive to professional helpers and your loved ones alike. I am sure that in due time you will recover, being helpful to all those around you; instead of being harmful/hurtful.

Mama is in China for 2 weeks and I did not accompany her as originally planned due to my health situation. Sam is here to keep me company and for that I am grateful. I will report to him our conversation in a day or two, when the moment is right.

Appreciate the information re: your Easter break and your offer to help. During this season of Easter, I wish you the new beginning in life that's marked by hope.

Due to my limitation typing Chinese, kindly help your parents understand the intent and content of this message by translating for them: either verbally or in written form. I thank you in advance for your kind assistance.

Papa

To: Enoch Wan <enochwan@yahoo.com>
Sent: Monday, March 25, 2013 9:22 AM
Subject: Thank you for your call

Hi Papa,

Thank you for calling as soon as you get better. I hope you get the rest you need to recover strongly and steadily in the coming weeks.

Thank you for talking to me also. I am very grateful for your advice and your help.

Sam's support has always stayed with me while I work through hectic work situations, medication and other learnings. I think about him everyday and about how he tried to help me before. It is in thinking that I need to get better, be independent and be a support and comfort to Sam (if ever possible again) that I keep on working through the disorder and through life.

I am not sure if Sam is receptive to hearing from me. If he is not stable, then I don't want to pressure him into thinking about the past or into talking to me right away.

I am going to have a Easter break from 3/29 (Fri) to 4/7 (Sun). I will keep your advice in mind and will be continuing to work with my family on getting back to emotional health. Please know that I will be free to provide any support you think would be appropriate from my end. Just give me a call and let me know.

Please send my regards to mama. Hope she is feeling better also. I am unspeakably sorry for all the woes I have caused Sam, Mama and you.

Take care,

Hoiyin