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Skype : [10/5/2013 21:01:57] leo lo: Sam, my sister isn't don't want to talk with you in the phone, but her emotion is very bad, she get emotional flooding, please understand that, she still working hard in her Bipolar Disorder, she's still taking medicinal. We afraid the thing you will tell her, she can't bear, she's going to breakdown, so please talk with us first. Thank you. [10/5/2013 21:10:11] leo lo: please understand that, we are not want to disturb your family, we just want to let you know, she's got sick, and update my sister's situation. [10/5/2013 21:21:32] leo lo: please don't contact her directly, she can't bear, please talk to us frist, Thank you ! [10/5/2013 22:22:30] Sam Wan: Your sister has been holding me hostage for years. I can't do this forever. [10/5/2013 22:23:57] leo lo: please wait, i call you [10/5/2013 22:34:53] Sam Wan: Please understand, I only want to speak with her directly. [10/5/2013 22:39:01] leo lo: please understand, as a family, we have to protect her, she's a patients, she still love a lot, she cry and  breakdown, she can't pear your call directly. [10/5/2013 22:40:11] leo lo: please, just claim down, i know you suffer a lot of pain before. [10/5/2013 22:47:20] Sam Wan: Please don't blame all of this on her medical condition, and don't assume you know what I have tolerated from her for the past ten years. [10/5/2013 22:48:26] Sam Wan: I want her to be healthy too, but she has manipulated me for too long. [10/5/2013 22:50:10] leo lo: Can we call you in the phone?? [10/5/2013 22:51:15] Sam Wan: Why? [10/5/2013 22:53:13] leo lo: i am not write very good in english, and we talk with each other may be communicate better, my father wants take a little talk with you. [10/5/2013 23:00:18] Sam Wan: I have been in your position for many years. She threatens to hurt herself to control people who care about her. Then, she hurts the people who protect her, but they cannot do anything to protect themselves. So, now you are protecting her because you worry for her. I understand that. [10/5/2013 23:09:17] leo lo: Fristly, i want to let you know, she still love you a lot, a lot and a lot. You ask me in hong kong before, you ask me did she love you ? I can tell you, yes. Her iphone's wallpaper still is your photo, and i teach her ukulele let her emotion better, she always sing the <You are my sunshine>, she think you are her sunshine, she so get the energy to face the illness. [10/5/2013 23:09:40] Sam Wan: I CANNOT BE HER SOLUTION. [10/5/2013 23:11:16] Sam Wan: You are trying to put me in a position of being responsible for someone who told me to leave many times, over many years. [10/5/2013 23:14:40] leo lo: in this few month, we try to communicate with you so much, we always miss you, then Mr.Wan tell us that your emotion has been bad, and told us not to contact with you. [10/5/2013 23:15:25] leo lo: So we try to update our information to him and billy. [10/5/2013 23:17:01] leo lo: We just want to have a very good communicate with you, have enough time, space. [10/5/2013 23:17:50] leo lo: Some information may be you don't know. [10/5/2013 23:19:03] Sam Wan: What is your goal? [10/5/2013 23:35:52] leo lo: As you sign the marriage paper with Hoi Yin, that's two people thing, two people is willing and think it very careful, and then sign it, if they have to separate, it should be two people can claimly, careful, base on a very good communication. As now, that's not enough of communication, she had things to tell you, but will can't have enough space, that you already make the decision in your side. [10/5/2013 23:36:26] leo lo: Please know that we all care about you, care about your feeling. [10/5/2013 23:37:16] Sam Wan: That makes sense. I agree. What kind of space does she need? [10/5/2013 23:40:12] Sam Wan: Because I have given her space like I promised your mother. I have given her many months. [0:03:24] leo lo: In fact, please understand that, she is suffer a bipolar disorder, that's a mood disorder, not just time and medicine can make her recover. The pressure of work, side effect of the medicine, mood disorder herself made her emotion instability frequently, all the stuff she can all face it very very well, she loves you, and you is her energy to suffer all the pain in those pressure. The most important pressures is you already make decision that you have to separate with her and not have space let her to explanation about what her situation in this few month, how much she love you, something may have some missing piece inside. She can't told you, and already make decision, it makes her emotion instability frequently, she think about you every day every night. And she dream about you in the morning many times. If you can try to join the treatment with her, know about what's going on about her bipolar disorder, talk to her, listen to her, she can recover very very well. Before you make the decision.+ [0:12:20] Sam Wan: Ok. I am available to talk to her and listen to her. I will do what I can to make it easier, within reasonable limits. Thank you for taking the time to communicate with me. [0:13:39] leo lo: I don't know how much you know about bipolar disorder? I think you know who is Stephen fry. (She told me about you guys love to watch the show of him)He is also have bipolar disorder. And here is a link he talk about his bipolar disorder: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B2Ta0yFoNG8 Maybe you can talk a few minute to take a look, you may know what i say about her. [0:14:20] Sam Wan: Yes I have seen that. I have studied bipolar disorder. I agree that it is real. I have friends who have bipolar disorder. [0:15:20] Sam Wan: You are making the situation dangerous by allowing her to blame her actions on bipolar disorder, and not taking responsibility. [0:16:12] leo lo: I am understand your feeling, thanks for you willing to make it easier, and thanks for you to talk to me. [0:19:13] Sam Wan: I'll say it again: You are making the situation dangerous by allowing her to blame all of her actions on bipolar disorder. [0:19:33] Sam Wan: I have to work, talk to you later, Leo. [0:20:06] leo lo: May be we have not the same information and understanding in bipolar disorder, we have see the psychiatrist, introduce by auntie ling, and have a very good counselor here, may be we can join the treatment together, and discuss about it. [0:20:17] leo lo: ok , thx , keep in touch [2:57:00] leo lo: I can't describe to you that how much she's feel compunction and self-accusation for hurt you so much. Our family is all give her support to face her illness and pain, we all meet with her psychiatrist,and counselor. She's working so hard to try to recovery from the bipolar disorder, study so hard to find out her own problem and self-reflection, it all base on she loves you. And she can control her emotion well in normal day. But every time, when she try to communicate with you and your family,the waiting time, the response, makes her going to breakdown. In these days, you are right, we can't really feel the same feeling that you had suffer before, but we can imagine your pain, you suffer so much in the past few year. And you have showed patience and love out of the ordinary for my sister. She often said those love can only pay by the most wonderful person. What I can say is bipolar disorder is not all, but may be one of a main cause make the relationship turn bad for you two . I think we can discuss about it later. In this few months, we are hard to contact with you, because your father told us, your emotion also instability. We are worry about you. Also, we listen the advice of our counselor, and respect you, so we also let you have enough time and space until you want to talk to us. Now, you talk to me. Thanks. Thanks for you can available to take time, to listen to her, and talk to her, join the treatment, make everything easier. Let our family discuss, which method we can communicate, and give us some time to pick up her emotion and ready to talk with you. Sam, please just keep in mind, please don't contact her directly, she can't bear, please talk to us frist, and we will communicate in the middle in this period of time, thank you very much. Happy to hear you to get a new job, and wish your work go smoothly! Also we all wishing Mr. Wan recover well. Keep in touch ~